To Be Heard...Listen Louder

None of us are born good communicators. We mistakenly believe that talking is the same as conveying an accurate message. But understanding another requires far more than a vocabulary and a voice. It involves an investment of time, authenticity, and the creation of a safe space. I want to be understood, but am I willing to listen and truly hear to begin the process? Most of us arrive at a conversation with a pre-conceived agenda and focus on our own requirements.

I want to transcend your expectations and address your needs. Are you an introvert that feels exhausted from an impromptu brainstorming session or an extrovert with difficulty focusing on a day that demands the separation of virtual interactions, void of any opportunity for spontaneity or fun?

I firmly believe words matter, and so does intention. If I expect you to understand me, am I willing to invest the time and effort to listen to your vocabulary, volume, pace, emotion, posture, and gestures? As we transition from a time of isolation back to the new normal, can we prioritize understanding so that together we comprehend the negotiated meaning of each other's messages?

The best interactions involve teaching, sharing, hearing, repeating what is essential, and rephrasing your interpretation. Good communicators say more with less. They address skepticism with facts, care about the recipient as a person, make the message engaging, and move from managing the big picture to focusing on details and next steps.

Communication requires demonstration of vulnerability and intimacy. This experience for both parties is not common, but when it occurs, it is magical. If you focus on others, you create a message that works for everybody. My soulmate's favorite response to any questions is "fine". These words convey: I'm annoyed, Don't care, If you want, Let's do it, I'm excited, I can't wait or It's the best thing ever. My job is to discern the meaning.

One definition of reflection is expression without words. As I reflect on this topic, I ask you, "Help me hear you." Communication is not a short-term destination but a lifelong journey.